How to Break Free from the Hollow Life

Hollow tree

There’s an old apple tree on our property that, without pruning, has grown into a full-size tree.

Whether from age or burrowing animals, the trunk is hollow near the ground, where it should be strongest. There is even a spot where daylight shows through a hollow area in the middle.

The funny thing is, it still produces what looks like a full yield of apples every year. From a distance, you’d never know anything was wrong. And yet we fully expect the day it finally tips over, because its foundation simply can’t support the weight forever.

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How to Fuel Your Brain for Peak Performance

Brain

When I was in the corporate world, I was constantly consuming information. Emails to triage, financial projections to build and socialize, and technical content to absorb and translate. It was a nonstop buffet for the brain.

Then I retired. Suddenly my days were filled with travel, helping my parents relocate, and tackling long delayed house projects. After a few weeks, I realized something surprising: I missed the constant ingestion of content. My mind felt like it had taken an extended vacation. My brain was getting hungry.

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The Lighthouse Still Guides Us

Lighthouse on the Hudson River

Sometimes the things that guide us for decades go dark — and that’s when the real work begins.

Last week we visited the Tarrytown Lighthouse, the cast‑iron beacon that sits in the Hudson River at Sleepy Hollow — yes, the same Sleepy Hollow from Washington Irving’s Headless Horseman. Built in 1883, it guided ships for 78 years until modern navigation made it obsolete in 1961.

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The Empty Briefcase

A quiet milestone in my retirement journey happened today — and it surprised me more than I expected.

It’s been three weeks since my last day of work, and today I finally emptied out what remained in my laptop bag — my modern‑day briefcase. Somewhere among leftover folders, random cables, and a couple of loose coins were the final day‑to‑day artifacts of the professional rat race I stepped away from when I retired.

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The Legacy That Matters Most Isn’t Financial

This week, I’ve been thinking about what it means to leave a lasting legacy — more specifically, what remains after the season we call retirement comes to an end.

We often think of legacy in terms of financial assets passed down to the next generation. But what if it’s more than that? What if our lives were lived in such a way that our lasting impact isn’t just money left to children, but enduring attributes like family strength, cultural influence, and a spiritual foundation?

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It Happened

Last Wednesday, I went into work as an SVP and left around 5:30 as a retiree. After a 40‑year career with Bank of America, I officially stepped into the next chapter.

I was the very last person to leave that day. I sent one final email to my manager thanking him for his support, then signed off for the last time. After that, I took a slow walk through the office, just reminiscing.

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19 Ways to Lead

Photo showing leadership

True leaders lead in every season, not just the good ones. As the world is currently in crisis and the only news is bad news, your leadership is needed now more than ever! Here are 19 attributes of leadership that you can draw from during this time of great trouble.

A leader…

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Five Essential Tips to Nail A First Impression

People shaking hands

The human brain processes non-verbal information much faster than verbal communication. Within a couple seconds of meeting someone for the first time, the brain has already assessed a long list of factors about that person (for better or for worse) such as gender, age range, physical attributes, general hygiene,  how the individual is dressed, and the level of confidence they display through body posture and facial expression. This information then immediately creates a filter through which the brain will initially process verbal communication coming from that person. You truly only have one chance to make a great first impression!

Now that we are aware of how the brain formulates first impressions, it’s time we up our game in this critical area of communication. So, let’s take a look at some tangible action steps we can take to nail that first impression whether we are speaking in front of a crowd, being introduced to an executive from work, or perhaps meeting that special someone for the first time.

The Captivating Wedding

Photo of bride and groom

It happened years ago in Brazil, where we lived at the time, in a little church my dad was overseeing. The modest chapel stood on a hillside overlooking the red clay-tiled roofs of the houses below that spilled out across the valley. On this particular day, he was presiding over a wedding and so we were all invited to attend what turned out to be an amazing ceremony and a valuable life lesson. Looking back now, it was without a doubt the humblest wedding I ever attended, but at the same time one of the most captivating.

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